Thursday, April 11, 2013


I feel like I need to clarify something for the world. I've had a lot of people telling me lately that "You need to get out there more" and "You need to get online and find yourself a husband" and "Girl, we need to get you married!"

To. Be. Clear.

I am not looking for a husband.

I wouldn't know what to do with one if I had one. Honestly, a lifetime seems like an awful long time to spend with someone- we wont even talk about eternity- in fact, I can't even imagine a conversation longer than ten minutes without breaking into a cold sweat.

All I'm saying is that it would be nice to be noticed once in a while. It would be nice to be a normal person and have the ones I flirt with flirt back- instead of seeing that I'm there and running and hiding in the other room until I walk by (oh yes, it's happened). It would be nice for someone (sane) to ask for my number- someone who can make me laugh and have something to look forward to when I get up in the morning.

Not someone who is going to make me feel even worse about myself than I already do. I am trying very hard to weed those kinds of people out of my life. I need to feel needed, but I also want someone who is going to be there for me in my time of need too. Not someone who is going to dodge my phone calls when I need a shoulder to cry on, or someone who is going to put me on hold every time someone else beeps through on call waiting.

It's important to be nice, but it's also nice to be important. Even if it's just to one person.

So no, I'm not husband hunting. But it would be nice to have a friend (a local friend, people... I know I have friends).

Although, it seems like all I do these days is whine. No wonder I don't have friends. Sheesh!

ps, Barbara, are you still there? Did you see my reply to your last comment? I wasn't the least bit offended.

pps, to my last post I had to add in the "stats" the 6 pens that I stole during my travels.

1 comment:

Barbara said...

Of course, I'm still there! I am probably your number one fan and check your blog on a regular basis (read: at least twice a day :-))

Do you know, when I knew that this guy I had been set up with by a friend (yes, these things still happen AND work out!), would be the special person I had been waiting for for 20 years? He picked me up one day, turned around in his car seat, looked me in the eyes and simply asked: "How was your day?" And he actually cared about my answer! He was interested in me and every boring aspect of my life, that made me feel so special and wonderful, I couldn't get enough of it ;-) For fourteen years now he's been the one standing by my side, being my rock through every up - and more importantly every down, that after all this time I still feel incomplete, even if he's just out for work...

I promise you, you will know. Instantly. There will be no wondering, no hiding, no reading into signs and going through every conversation you've had in your head (twenty years IS a long time *sigh*). And this - IMHO - is soo worth waiting for!

Have a great weekend! xxx B.