It won't happen when you're looking for it but you've got to put yourself out there.
Huh... Ok... so how does that work? If I'm putting myself out there- trying to meet people and taking risks with flirting and inviting... how is that not "looking for it?" You can't find treasure if you're not on a hunt. You don't just one day trip over a treasure chest filled with diamonds and rubies. Well... Ok, there is the rare occasion that that technique works for some people, but they are mostly in religious magazines and young adult novels.
You just have to be yourself but you have have to play it cool.
Wait, so you're saying I can't be overly excited and enthusiastic? What if that's who I am? I won't deny that when I like someone- I want to see him all the time. I want to spend time around him. I want to do nice things for him. It's really hard for me to "play it cool" but apparently "my way" is a scary way to be. I'm not crazy stalker psycho... but I just think if we like each other and we have everything in common, why can't we chat and hang out? I don't think that's needy and clingy. I think that's enthusiasm and excitement for the new friendship. It's not like I need to have hourly updates on what he's doing... but does it have to be weeks and weeks between conversations? If I want to talk to him- do I really have to "wait my turn" to text? That just seems so silly to me- and yet I do it because it's what my friends (who, let's face it, are just unpaid therapists) tell me to do. But they're all married- so they must know *something* about it. Right?
(ok... that last one made me seem a wee bit crazy. I'm just not explaining myself well, I think.)
This last one is my favorite. I don't think this was what was intended in the lesson today at church, but this is what *I* heard:
You don't need a man to be happy, but you'll never know true happiness until you're married.
Ummm... really I don't know where to go with that one. Everyone keeps telling me that if you can't be happy alone, you can't be happy in a relationship. And I absolutely agree with that. And I think- all kidding aside, I'm fairly happy. I mean, I'm extraordinarily blessed, I have my own place, I have more than enough to eat (and obviously I see that it doesn't go to waste [no waist puns, please]) and I am secure enough with myself to go out and do things alone and have a life by myself when friends aren't available. But I guess I'll never know true joy until I have someone to be eternally annoyed with...
I don't know. I just don't understand life sometimes. Don't ask me- I just live here.
1 comment:
I have decided that each situation is different and that makes taking advice from people really hard! Just because it worked for them or it is their perspective doesn't mean that it will work for you! That being said I am going to give you advice ;) I say trust in the Lord and relax and have fun! Do what you feel is right! Push yourself to grow and become a better you! If you have a boy great if not then rock it! Rock the single life by doing amazing things fun things married people can't do! Rock it because you are amazing and boys are stupid but if a decent one comes around don't ignore him! Love you! This might be the longest comment I have ever left!
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